“Hurry Kids! Assume the Position! Mom has lost her make-up brush and all hell is about to break loose. Hurry! Take cover! Do not speak….. Do not say one word…..”
Recently I was asked by the authors of a wonderful book called, Survive or Thrive? to share on their podcast, how I nearly lost my (then) 19-year old daughter. They had heard how our family was frequently accused of “having too much fun together to be related.” They asked me to discuss how that transformation occurred.
I am attaching a link to that interview, How I Overcooked My Family, because what I know for sure, is that one day my daughter and I were “best buds” and the next day, (accumulative years later), she and I couldn’t be in the same room together without arguing. Everyone told me this dynamic was normal especially since “she and I were too much alike”.
Oh how I wish I had known how to climb trees back then. I would have sat on a totally high branch, and looked below me at how those words sounded from a higher perspective. T O O - M U C H - A L I K E . Poor Debbie and her daughter — too much in common !!
It is amusing — the things we can’t see when they are staring us in the face. Like the time I ran around a flea market looking for my lost sunglasses. Ray Bans. Dark brown with amber lenses. I must have dashed into seven different booths before some guy selling fake authentic tapestry rugs shyly pointed to my nose. “Pardon me ma”am, but aren’t those the glasses you describe, on your face?”
Yes! I was wearing them. Seems those shades were just a fingertip away — just like me and my daughter’s “best bud” days — lost but not. All I had to do, was know where to seek!
Today’s Life Recipe: Sometimes a myth is just a myth. That’s why the truth is so delicious.
It’s true, u sometimes can’t see/think clearly when u’re in a sticky situation. After wat u’ve gone thru, I’m sure u all appreciate each other better now.
I loved this post! I really did! Especially the little quote on truth at the end.
Ahh teenagers. They go into the fog. But I hear they do emerge eventually and all is better!
Maybe it is the process to help them become adults. it gives them (and us) a little perspective
My daughter is 14 and the teenage years are killing me and we just started them. :o(
Good stuff.
Perspective, that elusive but beautiful being. So important in parenting, to be able to step back and see what is really there, not just what seems to be.
Great post, I have been over enjoying some of your segments. I love the fajita pita one, we often do that with leftovers. I love to whip up some homemade tzatziki sauce to go on top, works with any meat even meatballs. a cup of sour cream or plain yogurt, 1/2 c. grated cucumber, clove or 2 of garlic, pinch of dill and splash of lemon juice. Yummy!
So glad you and your daughter were able to work through things.
Oh, and that makeup brush thing? Just happened to me last week.
ah, perspective…I loved this post.
Great post! You keep me laughing.
My oldest daughters and I are very much alike too and often butt heads - very often.
Have a good week - Kellan
LOL!
OMG!Great post!You always manage to make me laugh!
xoxo
Great post! My mom and I always got along like best buds in my teenage years… since I am like her in some ways and the opposite in others, good chemistry!
Funny thing how we miss what’s right in front of us in a hair pulling situation.
Interesting post. I would have thought you and your daughter were always the best of friends.
The dynamic is a bit different in our house because I have all boys. I do find that with my oldest son, I do best when I hang out in his room or take him alone on an errand and let him do most of the talking.
I’m a bit nervous of what the teenage years will hold for us!
Thanks for sharing! Great advice.
What a good lesson to be learned. I’ll try to keep this in mind in the next couple of years.
Hilarious. One time I panicked b/c I couldn’t see my baby anywhere. Cuz I was holding him. I still shake my head over that one.
My mother and I fought like cats and dogs when I was a teenager. I would say around my junior year in college we started to become closer and now she is truly my best friend.
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